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Parental alienation is a form of emotional and coercive abuse in which one parent or primary caregiver engages in repeated behaviours that damage or destroy a child’s relationship with the other parent — where that parent poses no safeguarding risk to the child.
This issue concerns safe mothers, fathers, and extended family members who are
Parental alienation is a form of emotional and coercive abuse in which one parent or primary caregiver engages in repeated behaviours that damage or destroy a child’s relationship with the other parent — where that parent poses no safeguarding risk to the child.
This issue concerns safe mothers, fathers, and extended family members who are not abusive, violent, or dangerous, yet find their relationship with their child being systematically undermined.
Through persistent psychological manipulation, interference, and coercive control, the alienating parent may gradually take exclusive control over the child’s emotional world. Over time, this can erode the child’s natural attachment bond with a loving parent.
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The damage caused by parental alienation can be profound and long-lasting.
Children exposed to this dynamic may experience:
The damage caused by parental alienation can be profound and long-lasting.
Children exposed to this dynamic may experience:
When a child is encouraged to reject a safe parent without legitimate cause, it places an overwhelming emotional burden on them.
They may internalise adult conflict, feel responsible for protecting one parent, or suppress their own memories and emotions in order to cope.
This can significantly affect their mental health, emotional development, academic performance, and overall upbringing.
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For the parent being alienated — who poses no danger to their child — the consequences can be devastating.
Many experience:
For the parent being alienated — who poses no danger to their child — the consequences can be devastating.
Many experience:
The unjustified loss of a child relationship is often described as a form of living grief.
This campaign does not seek to protect abusive or dangerous parents.
Where genuine safeguarding concerns exist — including domestic abuse, neglect, or violence — child protection must always come first.
However, where a parent poses no safeguarding risk, and a child is being influenced to reject them through coercive and psychologically harmful behaviours, this must be recognised as emotional abuse.
While domestic abuse and coercive control are recognised within family court proceedings, the specific pattern of behaviours commonly described as parental alienation is not consistently addressed with the same clarity.
If coercive control is recognised as harmful, then behaviours that systematically remove a safe parent from a child’s lif
While domestic abuse and coercive control are recognised within family court proceedings, the specific pattern of behaviours commonly described as parental alienation is not consistently addressed with the same clarity.
If coercive control is recognised as harmful, then behaviours that systematically remove a safe parent from a child’s life must also be treated as harmful.
Delays within the family court system can mean that safe parents are separated from their children for extended periods. The longer contact is prevented, the more entrenched the alienation can become.
For children, time matters.
This campaign calls for:
This campaign calls for:
Children deserve timely decisions. Safe parents deserve access. And emotional abuse must be addressed consistently.
My children have been sepertaed from me and my family since may 2024! and there is not one reason anyone including the mother, courts, cafcass can give!
I have not seen my children since 26 May 2024.
This is not due to any finding that I pose a risk to them. There has been no fact-finding hearing, no proven allegations, and no determination that contact with me would be unsafe.
In May 2025, the family court made an order for contact. That order was not complied with. Despite this, it has taken many months for the matter to return to court. During this period, there has been no enforcement of the order and no interim contact arranged.
I paper hearing on 23 January 2026. had to order yesterday 10 Feb, giving a court date April, no interim order made, Still only 2 x 30 min video calls per month!
In 2024, allegations of post-separation domestic abuse were raised for the first time. These allegations were based on social media posts, not on physical conduct, and were not accompanied by any immediate safeguarding action. Prior to 2024, there had never been any allegations of domestic abuse.
A Cafcass officer involved last year stated that:
That report is on the court file. It took over a year to obtain.
For the past two years, Cafcass’s position was consistent: contact could proceed provided I was living in the UK.
I relied on that position. I returned to the UK, leaving my home in Portugal, and moved into temporary accommodation specifically to be close to my children and comply with the expectations placed on me.
After my return, a new Cafcass officer was allocated.
Despite:
Cafcass has now reversed its position and is seeking a full fact-finding hearing, a process expected to take six months to a year. During this time, they are not recommending any contact — including no recommendation for contact centre visits, despite my having raised this as a child-focused, protective option.
This is a complete departure from the previous Cafcass position, without any new evidence to justify it.
When I returned to the UK, I proposed contact via a contact centre to reduce anxiety for the children and allow a gradual reintroduction.
This proposal was not supported by Cafcass.
This is despite:
No clear explanation has been provided for why this option is now being rejected.
I am now living minutes from my children’s school.
I regularly pass places they attend.
I am physically present, available, and willing to engage in any proportionate process required.
I am not permitted to acknowledge my children or have any form of contact with them. I currently have no court date and no clarity on when this situation will be reviewed.
My children’s right to a relationship with their father is being delayed indefinitely without judicial findings to justify that delay.
This has affected:
I am effectively on hold, unable to move forward or rebuild family life, while time continues to pass without intervention.
I have watched documentaries about long-term kidnap victims describing how life becomes suspended, unable to progress. That description reflects my current reality.
This case highlights several structural problems within the family court system:
There is no sense of urgency, despite the developmental impact on children and the cumulative harm caused by prolonged separation.
I am one parent among many experiencing this. The common feature is not risk, but delay — and the absence of accountability when court orders are ignored.
What I am seeking is what Scripture already sets out. The Bible teaches that children are to be raised with the love, guidance, and presence of their parents: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4), and “Train up a child in the way he should go” (Proverbs 22:6).
There have been no allegations of abuse toward my children, and no findings that I am a danger to them; the only allegations raised relate to social media posts made in 2024, after contact had already been stopped, and those posts have since been removed. Scripture is clear that justice requires truth, timeliness, and proportion: “You shall not pervert justice or show partiality” (Deuteronomy 16:19), and “Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the afflicted” (Proverbs 31:9).
Children are not to be used as instruments of conflict, nor separated from a loving parent without cause: “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them” (Matthew 19:14). What should be happening is the restoration of relationship, not endless delay — because God’s design for family is protection, presence, and love, not prolonged separation without truth.
I will be praying outside a family court each week, if you would like to join me please email me for day and location LawAbidingfather@gmail.com